How did I get to this point?
How did I get to a place where I can wear whatever I want and still look good? It was those damn fish pants!
Let me explain.
I think it was grade four. Yep… grade four. One day, my mom came home with what I thought were the coolest pants ever. They were grey-ish black in color, almost a denim type of material. The cooolest thing about the pants was that they had a large detailed, multicolored, hand painted fish going up the entirety of one leg (I think it was the right leg). Awww man…. they were awesome! I couldn’t wait to wear them to school. The only problem was that when I wore them to school, I got made fun of so bad! It was so bad that I lost all confidence in myself. Upon reflection, I can say that I truly think that this day marked the day that I became afraid to not only trust myself but also to be myself. Unfortunately, this carried through to adulthood.
It took years of life experience before I was able to process this event. I now know enough to know that what I choose to wear is a representation of who I am. I can remember thinking to myself, ‘what’s the point of existing if I can’t be me.’ I would never try to hide the fact that I love to read, knit and paint-all representing some part of me. So likewise, there was no reason to hide what I like to wear. I came to respect the fact that expressing myself through clothing is an art form for me. It is a form of creativity that I love.
When I choose what to put on my body, I ensure that my clothing is either something I love or something that makes me feel my best (see article ‘how to find your signiture look for more details). This is how I wear whatever I want and still look good. I ensure that I love and/or feel my best in what I am wearing. This allows me to maintain a mindset in which I look so damn good that I don’t care what people think or say. Whether you are willing to admit it or not, we all feel and act our best when we think we look good.
You see I realized when reflecting on my cool fish pants, that everyone is not going to like what I like and I’m not going like everything they like. We are all different individuals with different tastes and different styles. This is what makes life interesting. Be attentive and confident in you no matter what others say and you too will be able to wear whatever you want and still look good.
Man… I wish I still had those fish pants. I would rock those pants like it’s nobody’s business! People would say, ” damn she looks good” and if they didn’t, who cares? I’d be like, “damn I look good” and what else matters?
Talk Later.